Power play in sex, even with some mild pain, isn’t as rare as you might think: In surveys, between 8 and 50 percent of men and women report fantasizing about some kind of submissive kink.
Research indicates that women who fantasize about submission don’t score any higher on tests of neuroticism, and tend to be assertive, to boot. Plus, sexual power play may also have little consequence outside the bedroom.
The danger is in entering this kind of relationship if you don’t genuinely want to. But if you’re into sub/dom sex, have at it!
