Breakups are never easy, especially for the person on the receiving end. That’s the first thing to remember when considering a breakup. However, relationships end for a plethora of reasons.
Maybe your partner became violent or was emotionally abusing you, and you want out, or perhaps you feel you’re both on different wavelengths and cannot seem to find a balance. Whatever your reason, this is a guide on ending a relationship in a healthy way.
Brace yourself
While this may sound like a scout’s motto, it is imperative to be prepared for these things. If you’re thinking of ending the relationship, you’ll have to give plausible reasons why you feel that way. Before you execute, consider what you’ll say and come up with responses to every reaction.
Pick a spot
Unless you’re worried about your safety, the worst way to break up with someone is over the phone. A phone breakup makes it impersonal and ruthless. The strength and challenge are in looking at the person you love(d) and telling them why you cannot be with them anymore. Any comfortable location that puts them at ease and ensures they have the privacy to react with sadness if needed is appropriate.
Be calm
Chances are, you’re about to wreck your partner’s world. You shouldn’t be aggressive during a breakup. Be respectful as much as you possibly can when offering your points. Be honest and tell them the absolute truth about how you feel and why you feel it should come to its end.
Do not cave
Your partner may try to convince you of staying together and working through it is the best choice. Do not cave, especially if you feel you’re doing the right thing. Listen to your gut and make a clean cut. Remind your partner of how amazing the relationship was and how you’ll always cherish the good times, but unfortunately, it has to end.
Offer comfort
Do not shy away from hugging your partner to console them if they are distraught. You might even go as far as offering friendship so that you can still be in each other’s lives. This may help him/her move on faster.
There is no need always to end any relationship on a sad note. People sometimes drift apart for several reasons, and it’s best to do it on the kindest note that you can. Leave room for the future. You never know when the person’s help could come handy!
