With many of us in self-isolation and sadly separated from our partners, there’s never been a better time to introduce new and exciting ways to keep your sex life alive during the lockdown. If you’ve never tried it before, phone sex can be a nerve-wracking concept. But once you’re comfortable and relaxed, it can be a great way to maintain intimacy with your partner when you’re apart.
Whether you’re a phone sex addict or utterly new to it, here are some top tips to help you get yourself and your other half in the mood, wherever you both may be!
Set The Mood
First things first, just as if you were about to engage in a real-life sex session, you need to be in the right mood and mindset. Try to set the mood by lighting some candles and fairy lights and wear something you feel super sexy in – maybe that’s your favorite lingerie set or nothing at all!
Pre-Plan Your ‘Love Language’
There’s nothing funny about phone sex, but sometimes the awkwardness of it or fear of sounding silly can make you a bit giggly. It also doesn’t help when you or your partner use words you don’t find sexy. Try to have a brief discussion beforehand to see what words work for you both, and what type of talk and language turns you on. This should avoid any awkwardness or nervous laughs!
Try to Ensure There’s Equal Engagement
You may find that you are the more confident one in the relationship or vice versa, however phone sex is an interactive experience, so you must be both putting in equal amounts of effort in. If you feel your partner needs encouraging, or you want to keep the conversation flowing, try to ask questions such as “do you like that?” or “what are your hands doing right now?”. These can also make your other half feel more confident and encourage them to open up more.
Relax and Enjoy!
Above all, try to be as relaxed and comfortable as possible – phone sex should be an exciting and fun act to engage in with your partner, so try these tips and pick up the phone!
