The actor Jamie Dornan has stuck his foot in his mouth yet again while discussing his role as Christian Grey in“50 Shades of Grey,” aka the reason his children’s children’s children will have big, fat trust funds.Dornan, a former male model, told ELLE UK that as research for Grey — a formerly abused sexual dominant — he visited a “sex dungeon” to watch BDSM (bondage dominance sadomasochism) play in the flesh:
“I went there, they offered me a beer, and they did…whatever they were into. I saw a dominant with one of his two submissives. I was like: ‘Come on guys I know I’m not paying for this but I am expecting a show.’ It was an interesting evening. Then going back to my wife and newborn baby afterwards… I had a long shower before touching either of them.”
It wasn’t his cup of tea, which is fine. Plenty of people aren’t into BDSM, not just Dornan. But his attitude is quite arrogant: he basically called them gross (if not outright disease-ridden) because of how they have sex.To be clear, I don’t think he’s being literal about actual bodily fluids — he was only watching, not participating. He’s saying he was so skeeved out by what the dominant was doing with the two submissives. And again, that’s fine if it’s not what he personally gets off on. But did he really need to say he took “a long shower” before he’d touch his wife or kid afterward? Have some respect — these are real human being he is talking about.This is second occasion that Jamie Dornan has made irksome comments. In an interview with the UK’s Guardian, he also spoke about the dungeon visit and how he saw “a perfectly sweet and normal woman” being spanked. “There may well be a repressed side to some women who long for that kind of thrill in their everyday life,” he continued. Just from those comments right there, Dornan suggested it must not be “normal” to want to be engage in BDSM play and suggested these women are “repressed.” On the contrary, a recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that two-thirds of women and half of men have fantasies of being dominated. That’s quite a lot of people who are repressed, is it not?I wish Jamie Dornan an actor who is going to bank millions for depicting BDSM on film, was more thoughtful about how he discusses real human beings who engage in these behaviors before he shares his opinions. If he is so perturbed, I wonder why he did the movie at all.Related Articles:“50 Shades” Star Jamie Dornan Suggests Women Who Are Into BDSM “May Well Be Repressed”On Dating With HerpesDocumentary “Inside Her Sex” Explores Female Sexuality and Shame
